If you want to treat China as an enemy, you have a much better

In the ever-changing tapestry of diplomacy and international relations, there lies a profound truth that transcends the fleeting conflicts and triumphs of any single generation: how we treat others shapes the world we live in. Jim Sasser, a man who has long witnessed the intricacies of global affairs, once wisely stated, "If you want to treat China as an enemy, you have a much better chance of making them an enemy than if you treat them as a potential friend." This simple but powerful reflection speaks to the very heart of human nature and the dynamics that govern the relationships between nations. It is not simply a statement about politics, but about the profound impact of attitude and approach in shaping the future.

This truth has echoed throughout the ages, as the ancients understood well the power of treatment in shaping the course of events. In the writings of Sun Tzu, the famed author of The Art of War, we find the idea that the way one approaches an enemy often determines whether that enemy will remain adversarial or transform into a potential ally. "To subdue the enemy without fighting is the acme of skill," he wrote. In these words, Sun Tzu speaks not just of battle, but of the greater wisdom in how we engage with those we consider threats. He understood that respect, strategic engagement, and a thoughtful approach could transform a potential adversary into a valuable ally. Just as Sasser's words suggest, by treating China—or any nation—with suspicion and hostility, one invites hostility in return. Yet, through friendship and open-mindedness, one opens the door to cooperation and peace.

Consider the historical example of the Pax Romana, the period of relative peace that prevailed throughout the Roman Empire from the reign of Augustus to that of Marcus Aurelius. The success of this era was rooted in Rome’s ability to treat conquered peoples with a mix of firmness and respect, recognizing that those who were once enemies could be integrated into the empire as allies. Rome did not seek to humiliate those it conquered; instead, it extended the olive branch of citizenship and opportunity, thereby transforming potential enemies into contributors to the empire's prosperity. It was a masterful application of treating others as potential friends, an approach that helped to forge the great Roman empire and ensured its lasting influence. This is a timeless lesson, showing how respectful engagement can turn potential conflict into mutual benefit.

In more modern history, we need only look to the transformation in U.S.-China relations to understand the profound impact of attitude. In the early 1970s, the United States had long treated China with suspicion and hostility, resulting in decades of isolation and tension. However, it was the strategic efforts of President Nixon and Henry Kissinger that changed the course of history. By seeking diplomatic engagement, acknowledging China as a key player on the global stage, and showing respect rather than confrontation, the U.S. opened the door to normalization of relations. This shift was not simply political—it was a shift in attitude, one that saw China not as an enemy, but as a nation worthy of respect and cooperation. The fruits of this engagement are seen today in the complex yet cooperative relationship between the two nations.

The ancient Chinese proverb, "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now," speaks to the urgency of treating others with respect and a spirit of friendship at the earliest opportunity. The lesson here is clear: the way we choose to approach others, especially those we may see as rivals or adversaries, will determine the course of our relationships. If we engage with suspicion, hostility, or condescension, we are more likely to cultivate distrust and resentment. But if we approach others with openness, respect, and a genuine desire for collaboration, we set the stage for peace, growth, and prosperity for both sides.

In your own life, whether in personal relationships or professional engagements, the lesson remains the same: how you treat others shapes not only the present moment but the future. Treat others as potential friends, and you open the door to a future of mutual respect, understanding, and cooperation. But if you approach the world with an attitude of suspicion and hostility, you are more likely to find your fears realized. This is not to suggest blind trust or naivety, but a conscious choice to engage with others in a manner that fosters peace and collaboration. The power to create a better future lies in our hands, in how we choose to relate to the world and to those around us.

Thus, let Sasser’s words guide you: recognize that the relationships you build, whether with individuals, nations, or cultures, are shaped by your approach. Seek not to make enemies, but to build alliances through friendship and mutual respect. For it is through this thoughtful approach that we find the greatest opportunities for growth, peace, and understanding. Whether on the global stage or in our personal lives, the choice to treat others as potential friends is the path to lasting and meaningful connections.