It was God's idea to make us male and female. And God's the one

“It was God's idea to make us male and female. And God's the one that instituted marriage.” — Gary Chapman

In these words, Gary Chapman speaks of the sacred origin of humanity’s oldest covenant — marriage. His voice calls us back to the beginning of time, when creation itself was new and uncorrupted. It was not man who invented love, nor society that shaped family; it was God’s idea, divine and eternal. The union of male and female is not merely biological or emotional — it is spiritual, a reflection of the Creator’s design. Where one embodies strength, the other mirrors grace; where one protects, the other nurtures. Together, they form a harmony that echoes the balance of heaven and earth.

From the dust of the earth, the first man was formed, and from his side, woman was brought forth — not from his head to rule over him, nor from his feet to be trampled, but from his rib, near his heart, to be loved and cherished. In this ancient moment, marriage was not a contract, but a covenant — a vow witnessed by the Divine. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” These words from Genesis are not relics of myth, but the eternal law of love — the blueprint of companionship, of sacrifice, of unity that transcends flesh and bone.

To forget this origin is to forget our nature. In every age, humanity has tried to redefine what God created — to make love a transaction, marriage a convenience, and gender a construct of the mind rather than a mystery of the soul. Yet time and again, history proves that when man strays from divine order, confusion follows. The ancients knew this: civilizations rise when families are strong, and crumble when the bond between man and woman weakens. For marriage is not merely the union of two — it is the foundation upon which nations are built.

Consider the story of Martin Luther and Katharina von Bora, whose marriage changed not just their lives, but the history of faith itself. Luther, the great reformer, once a monk sworn to solitude, and Katharina, a nun who fled the convent to seek truth, came together in courage and conviction. Their marriage defied the traditions of their time — yet through it, Luther declared that marriage was sacred, instituted by God, and not to be despised. Their home became a place of learning, worship, and compassion — a living sermon that showed the world that divine purpose could dwell in the ordinary life of a man and woman bound in love.

Chapman’s words are a reminder that marriage was never meant to be merely about happiness, but holiness. It is the crucible in which character is forged — where patience, forgiveness, and sacrifice are learned. The union of male and female reflects the image of God not in perfection, but in pursuit — in the daily choice to love, even when love is hard. For as the ancients taught, “The greatest temple is the home, and the greatest offering is fidelity.”

And yet, this truth is not limited to the wedded alone. It speaks to the balance that governs all creation — the joining of opposites to bring forth life and order. Light and darkness, sea and sky, strength and tenderness — all flow from the same divine principle that birthed man and woman. In honoring this harmony, we honor the Creator Himself. To deny it is to tear at the fabric of creation; to embrace it is to live in rhythm with eternity.

So, let this be your lesson, traveler of time: marriage is not man’s invention but God’s institution — a sacred trust placed in human hands. Guard it well. Treat love not as a fleeting feeling, but as a covenant written in the heavens. Whether you are husband or wife, seek to love as God loves — fully, faithfully, and without end. For in doing so, you do not merely build a family; you build a reflection of the divine plan itself. And when two souls honor that plan, the world around them becomes just a little more like Eden again.