I've not tried a dating app like Raya. I think for me, I would

The wise and compassionate Judi Love, known for her humor, honesty, and deep understanding of the modern human spirit, once said: “I’ve not tried a dating app like Raya. I think for me, I would know most of the people who are on there but one of my rules about online dating is to find an app that best suits you, be it age, religion or privacy.” Though spoken in the context of love and technology, these words carry the essence of timeless wisdom. They are not merely about dating — they are about discernment, self-awareness, and the art of knowing what nourishes one’s soul in a world of countless choices.

Judi Love’s reflection reveals a truth as ancient as human connection itself: that love, in any age or form, requires authenticity. Whether it blossoms through a glance across a crowded room or through a glowing screen, the foundation must remain the same — one must know oneself before seeking another. Her counsel to “find an app that best suits you” is, at its heart, a call to alignment. In a time when people are tempted to chase trends or follow crowds, she urges the seeker of love to choose with intention, not imitation. For love, when guided by wisdom, is not about convenience; it is about compatibility — of spirit, of values, and of purpose.

In the ancient world, this same principle was known by another name: harmony. The Greek philosophers taught that harmony was the highest form of beauty, not only in music but in life and love. To live harmoniously was to act in accordance with one’s nature. To love harmoniously was to choose a partner — or a path — that resonated with one’s soul. When Judi Love speaks of choosing an app according to “age, religion, or privacy,” she echoes this eternal teaching. For she reminds us that every heart has its own rhythm, and that to find joy, one must honor that rhythm rather than deny it.

Consider, for instance, the story of Emperor Marcus Aurelius, who, though a ruler of great power, sought simplicity and integrity in all things. Surrounded by distractions, politics, and deceit, he wrote in his Meditations: “Be yourself, for the gods have made no finer design.” Like Judi Love, he knew that peace and happiness come from choosing what aligns with one’s nature. Whether one is an emperor or a lover searching through the endless scroll of profiles, the principle remains the same — to know thyself, and to act in accordance with that knowledge.

Yet Love’s wisdom extends beyond mere self-awareness; it touches upon respect — for oneself and for others. In her gentle humor lies the reminder that not every opportunity is meant to be pursued. Her refusal to use certain apps is not judgment, but discernment. She recognizes that the right environment matters — not only for success, but for safety and sincerity. This awareness transforms her advice into something universal: in love, as in life, not every path is yours to walk, and wisdom lies in knowing which roads to take.

What she offers is a modern parable for those lost in the noise of choice. Many today seek love as they seek entertainment — endlessly swiping, comparing, consuming — yet forget that true connection is sacred, not transactional. By urging people to find an app, a space, or a method that “best suits you,” Judi teaches the way of mindfulness. It is not the platform that determines the depth of connection, but the presence of the heart behind it. To seek love without awareness is to cast seeds on stone; to seek it with intention is to plant in fertile ground.

So, my listener, take this wisdom into your own life: do not let the fashions of the world dictate the rhythm of your heart. Whether in love, friendship, or calling, choose what aligns with your truth. Reflect on what matters to you — your values, your comfort, your vision of connection — and let those be your guide. For as Judi Love reminds us, the tools of the world are many, but the soul has only one voice. To follow it faithfully is to walk the ancient path of wisdom — the path that leads not just to love, but to peace.