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“Jealousy is a natural feeling, even when you're happy for the person and you love them.” Thus spoke Sonja Morgan, with words that strike at the heart of human contradiction. For in these words she names a truth many try to hide: that jealousy can live side by side with love, that the soul may rejoice in another’s good fortune while still feeling the sting of longing. It is not always malice that breeds jealousy, but the simple ache of being human—desiring what another has, even while our hearts wish them well.

The meaning of this saying is profound. Many believe jealousy is only the child of hatred or bitterness, but Morgan reminds us that it can arise even in the presence of affection. A friend wins a prize, a sibling finds success, a loved one shines with glory—and though we rejoice, a small shadow passes through us: “Why not me?” This is not wickedness, but weakness. It is the reminder that love does not erase desire, and joy for others does not silence the voice of comparison within.

The ancients knew this tension well. The Greek poets sang of Achilles and Patroclus, bound by love and loyalty, yet even there was the faint shadow of envy at each other’s strength and renown. In Scripture, Cain loved his brother Abel in blood, yet jealousy poisoned that bond, leading to tragedy. These stories show us the truth Morgan names: jealousy can exist in the midst of love. It is not foreign to the heart—it is born from the same soil that produces affection, admiration, and longing.

But not all jealousy ends in ruin. Consider the story of Thomas Jefferson and John Adams. These two men, friends and rivals, loved their country with equal passion. At times, their relationship was marked by envy, each resenting the influence and accomplishments of the other. Yet their love for one another as compatriots endured. In the final years of their lives, their letters reveal affection and respect mingled with the shadows of past rivalry. Their story proves that one can love deeply, admire sincerely, and still wrestle with the natural rise of jealousy.

Morgan’s words also carry a message of forgiveness toward oneself. Too often, we condemn our own hearts for feeling jealousy, as if it proves us false or unloving. But she reminds us it is natural. To love does not mean we are free from envy; it means we choose, despite envy, to rejoice in the good of others. The feeling may rise unbidden, but virtue lies in mastering it—acknowledging it without letting it corrode love. In this way, jealousy becomes not a destroyer, but a teacher of humility and patience.

The lesson is clear: do not deny jealousy when it stirs within you, but do not let it rule you either. Recognize it as a passing shadow, proof of your humanity. When you feel it, pause and ask: “Do I still rejoice for this person?” If the answer is yes, then you are stronger than the jealousy itself. Train your soul to let love speak louder than envy, and to let admiration grow even in the soil of longing.

So let us carry Sonja Morgan’s words as wisdom for the journey: “Jealousy is a natural feeling, even when you’re happy for the person and you love them.” In this we are reminded that love is not the absence of struggle, but the triumph over it. To love is to accept that shadows may appear, but to keep the flame burning nonetheless. And if we walk this path, then jealousy will not consume us, but refine us—teaching us to love more deeply, rejoice more freely, and live with hearts wide open.