Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.” — Thus spoke Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, the healer of souls and the pioneer of understanding life’s final mystery. Her words are not meant merely for comfort, but for awakening — for they teach that the universe, in its vast and intricate design, moves with meaning. Even what we call tragedy is a teacher, even pain is a gift, and even silence is a voice that speaks to the spirit if only we dare to listen.

To get in touch with the silence within yourself is to enter the sacred space beyond noise and fear — the still point where the soul remembers its truth. In that inner quiet, we find not emptiness, but the whisper of the divine. It is there that understanding dawns, not from logic but from peace. For the outer world is filled with chaos and confusion, but within each of us there is a calm ocean, deep and eternal, where truth dwells. Kübler-Ross, who spent her life walking beside the dying, learned that this silence is not void but presence — a communion with life itself, where we begin to see that every moment, even the hardest, has purpose.

She came to this understanding through her profound work with those at the threshold between life and death. In her encounters with patients who faced their final days, she witnessed that suffering often brings clarity — that pain strips away illusion and reveals what truly matters: love, forgiveness, and meaning. Many of those she tended to, in their last breaths, spoke of gratitude even for their hardships, for through them they had grown in understanding. They had come to see, as she did, that there are no mistakes, no wasted days, no accidents — only lessons chosen by the soul for its own awakening. This is the essence of her quote: that life, in all its forms, is a sacred classroom.

The ancients, too, understood this. Marcus Aurelius, emperor and philosopher, wrote in his Meditations that every obstacle is fuel for the spirit. “What stands in the way becomes the way,” he said — meaning that the very things we resist are those meant to shape us. The wise do not curse their burdens; they transform them into strength. Kübler-Ross, in her own time, spoke the same truth through the lens of compassion. To her, even loss and grief were blessings, not because they were pleasant, but because they carried hidden wisdom. In pain, we learn humility. In failure, we learn resilience. In death, we learn the value of love.

To see all events as blessings requires courage — for the human heart naturally recoils from suffering. We ask, “Why must this happen to me?” But Kübler-Ross invites us to ask instead, “What am I meant to learn from this?” This shift transforms the world. Where once we saw punishment, we now see purpose; where once we saw chaos, we now see order. Even the storm, when viewed from above, reveals its spiral of beauty. Thus, to live wisely is to trust the unseen harmony beneath life’s turbulence — to believe that even when we do not understand, the universe is still weaving our good.

This truth was lived by Helen Keller, who, though struck blind and deaf as a child, found a deeper vision than most who see and hear. Through patience, courage, and the guidance of her teacher Anne Sullivan, she discovered that her suffering was not a curse but a path. It taught her empathy, purpose, and the boundless reach of the human soul. “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet,” she said. “Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened.” Like Kübler-Ross, she learned that silence — both literal and spiritual — is not emptiness, but revelation.

So, my child, take this teaching into your heart: seek the silence within you, for there lies your compass. When the storms of life rage, retreat not in fear but in reflection. Listen, and you will hear the soft voice of purpose guiding you through pain. When you fall, ask what wisdom the earth is teaching you. When you lose, ask what love remains. When you grieve, know that every tear waters the soil of your becoming. Trust that the pattern of your days, though unseen, is not random — it is written by the same hand that carved the stars.

For in the end, as Elisabeth Kübler-Ross reminds us, there are no mistakes, no coincidences — only lessons, only blessings. Life is not a series of accidents but a journey of growth, each step divinely placed. Embrace each moment, both joy and sorrow, as your teacher. When you learn to see with this vision, fear fades, resentment dissolves, and peace takes root. For then you will understand that nothing in this universe is wasted — not a tear, not a trial, not even a silence. Everything is given for one sacred purpose: to teach the soul how to love, and in loving, to become whole.