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“Love is when you meet someone who tells you something new about yourself.” – André Breton

Thus spoke André Breton, the father of Surrealism — a poet who sought the hidden truths of the human heart not in reason, but in revelation. In this tender and profound saying, he unveils love as the most mysterious form of self-discovery. For in love, he tells us, we do not merely encounter another soul; we encounter ourselves reflected, refracted, and awakened in ways we could never have imagined. To love is to meet a mirror that does not show what we were — but what we could become.

When Breton says that love is when someone “tells you something new about yourself,” he speaks of love as a revelation. The beloved becomes the voice through which the universe whispers forgotten truths into our being. Sometimes, it is through their eyes that we see our own beauty for the first time. Sometimes, it is through their faith in us that we discover our courage. Love, then, is not simply an emotion that binds two hearts — it is the alchemy that transforms each heart into something greater. It uncovers hidden dimensions of the soul, showing us not who we were, but who we are destined to be.

The origin of this wisdom is deeply rooted in Breton’s own life and art. As a surrealist, he believed that truth emerges from the depths of the unconscious — that love, like dreams, bypasses logic and speaks directly to the soul. His famous Manifesto of Surrealism called love “the highest form of chance,” the force that brings to light what reason could never find. Breton himself experienced this revelation through his great love for Suzanne Muzard, who became both muse and mirror to him. Through her, he encountered not only passion, but the rediscovery of his own creative and spiritual identity. In loving her, he learned new languages of the self — a truth that shaped his life and poetry.

The ancients, too, would have recognized this wisdom. Plato, in the Symposium, wrote that love is the great teacher — the divine madness that leads the soul toward truth. Through the beloved, one glimpses the eternal; through their reflection, one learns to see one’s own soul clearly. Rumi, the mystic poet, echoed the same when he wrote: “The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere; they’re in each other all along.” Love reveals, and in revealing, it awakens.

Consider the story of Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera, two artists whose love was as turbulent as it was transformative. They were opposites in form and temperament, yet each served as the other’s mirror. Through Diego’s admiration, Frida found the strength to see her own genius, even as her body suffered. Through Frida’s passion, Diego was reminded of the raw, emotional heart that art must never lose. Their love was not peaceful, but it was illuminating — each revealed to the other something they had not known about themselves. This, Breton would say, is the essence of love’s power.

To be loved, then, is not merely to be adored; it is to be understood into existence. It is to have another soul look at you so deeply that you begin to see the unseen parts of yourself — the courage, the tenderness, the capacity for wonder. And to love another truly is to do the same for them — to speak to the part of their soul that has long been silent, to remind them of their own hidden glory. Love is the divine conversation between two spirits who awaken each other to life.

So, my listener, remember this: seek not love that flatters, but love that reveals. Seek the one who speaks to your hidden self, who shows you the face you had before the world named you. And when you find them, listen — not with your ears, but with your soul. For love is the voice that tells you who you truly are, and when you learn to hear it, you will discover that the mystery of love was never about finding another, but about finding yourself reflected in their light.