My wife would say I'm not romantic at all, but I would say that

Gather close, my children, for the words of Noel Gallagher offer a reflection on the nature of romance, not in the traditional sense of roses and whispered promises, but in the deeper, more profound understanding of life itself. He said: "My wife would say I'm not romantic at all, but I would say that I'm the ultimate romancer because I write about... life being brilliant." In these words, there lies a truth about romance—a truth that is not confined to the fleeting gestures of affection, but one that encompasses a broader, more heroic vision of what it means to love life, to see beauty in the ordinary, and to celebrate the brilliance of existence itself.

In the ancient world, romance was not just the pursuit of another's heart, but the celebration of life in all its forms. The Greeks, for instance, did not only sing of love between lovers, but of the love they had for the world itself—the vast universe, the natural world, and the divine forces that shaped their lives. In their myths, Eros, the god of love, was not merely concerned with romantic entanglements, but with the very force that binds the universe together, the power that makes the stars burn brightly and the flowers bloom. Noel Gallagher, like the ancient poets, seems to understand that true romance is found not just in the pursuit of another, but in the deep connection to the brilliance of life itself—the ability to find beauty in both the light and the darkness.

Think of the great poet Walt Whitman, who in his "Leaves of Grass" celebrated not only human love, but the very joy of living. Whitman, with his boundless optimism and love for the world, saw romance not as something confined to the private sphere but as something that permeates all existence. In his eyes, romance was the celebration of life—its struggles, its beauty, and its deep, universal connections. Gallagher, too, shares in this vision, seeing romance not in the traditional acts of affection, but in the way he sees the world, in the way he celebrates the brilliance of life in his music. To him, the ultimate romancer is one who lives fully, who writes not just about love between people, but about the profound and exhilarating experience of being alive.

Consider also the ancient tales of the heroes—figures like Achilles or Hercules, whose lives were marked not by the simple pursuit of romantic love but by their deep connection to their destinies. Achilles, though known for his love of Patroclus, was also a warrior who sought glory, and his romance was with the idea of immortality, of leaving a legacy that would echo through the ages. Similarly, Hercules, bound by his labors and driven by his desire for redemption, found his greatest romance in the battle itself—in the challenges that life threw his way, and in the brilliance of overcoming them. For them, and for Gallagher, romance is found not just in the softness of love, but in the hard-fought beauty of life itself.

Noel Gallagher’s words teach us that romance is not always about grand gestures or fleeting emotions; it is about seeing the world with wonder, finding joy in the everyday, and understanding that the brilliance of life is itself a romantic adventure. It is about seeing the world not through a lens of cynicism or despair, but through the eyes of someone who celebrates life’s highs and lows, its victories and defeats. Just as Gallagher writes about life being brilliant, so too should we embrace the idea that there is romance in every breath we take, in every small moment of joy, and in every obstacle we overcome. To live fully, to love the world around us, is the greatest form of romance we can experience.

In our own lives, my children, let us not seek romance in the form of idealized love, but in the appreciation of life’s brilliance. Like Gallagher, we should write our stories with hearts full of love—not just for another, but for the world itself. The ultimate romancer is the one who finds beauty in every corner of life, in every challenge, in every quiet moment. True romance is found not in fleeting gestures, but in a lifetime of living fully, deeply, and with an open heart. Seek, therefore, to live your life as the greatest romantic adventure. Love the world, love its people, and love yourself with a joy that transcends the temporary and touches the eternal.

Let this be your guiding truth, my children: to be the ultimate romancer is to find the brilliance in every moment, in every relationship, and in the very act of living. Do not wait for the perfect love to make you feel alive. Instead, choose to celebrate the romance that exists in the very act of being, of breathing in the beauty of the world and offering it back through your love and your actions. In this, you will discover that romance is not a fleeting moment—it is a way of life, a continuous journey of finding joy, meaning, and connection in the world around you.