Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such

Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such

22/09/2025
21/10/2025

Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.

Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it's been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself to try to avoid my father's mistakes. At least if you're making mistakes, make different mistakes.
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such
Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such

Host: The evening was bruised with the color of old light — that kind of fading gold that clings to the horizon before surrendering to darkness. The café was almost empty. Only the faint hum of a refrigerator and the soft buzz of the street beyond broke the silence. The window glass reflected two figures: Jack, sitting with his elbows on the table, a nearly finished beer beside him; and Jeeny, leaning back, her fingers curled around a cup of tea, the rising steam blurring her reflection.

Outside, the sky deepened into indigo, and the first streetlights flickered alive, one by one, like cautious thoughts forming in a hesitant mind.

Host: It was the hour when memory feels louder than conversation.

Jeeny: Softly. “Salman Rushdie once said, ‘Perhaps because my relationship with my father went through such a long, bumpy time, it’s been very important for me to work to try to keep lines of communication open between my sons and myself — to try to avoid my father’s mistakes. At least if you’re making mistakes, make different mistakes.’

Jack: Without looking up. “Different mistakes.” He smiled faintly. “That’s the best anyone can do, isn’t it?”

Jeeny: “It’s honest. And sad. But honest sadness is better than proud silence.”

Jack: Finally lifting his eyes to meet hers. “Silence isn’t always pride, Jeeny. Sometimes it’s defense. Sometimes it’s the only way not to say what would destroy everything.”

Jeeny: “And sometimes silence destroys it faster.”

Host: The rain began quietly — a soft tapping against the window, steady and rhythmic. Jack turned slightly toward the sound, watching the drops streak downward, merging into delicate rivers that caught the faint streetlight and shimmered like threads of thought.

Jack: “My father and I didn’t talk for ten years. Not really. We shared a house, not words. He’d come home late, smell like work and cigarettes, and sit in front of the TV without saying a thing. If I tried, he’d nod. That was his language — nods and absences.”

Jeeny: Quietly. “That must’ve hurt.”

Jack: “It didn’t at first. When you’re young, you think that’s normal. But when I had my own son — the first time he called me dad — I felt it. The gap. The silence I inherited.”

Jeeny: “Inherited silence. That’s a heavy heirloom.”

Jack: Nodding. “And I’m afraid I’ve passed it on. Every time I don’t know what to say, I hear his voice — not speaking.”

Host: Jeeny’s eyes softened, but her voice grew firm, carrying the kind of tenderness that refuses to pity.

Jeeny: “Rushdie’s right. We can’t stop making mistakes. But we can choose which ones to make. Silence — that’s repetition. Speaking, even badly — that’s rebellion.”

Jack: “You really think words fix anything?”

Jeeny: “Not fix. But they bridge. A bridge doesn’t erase the river, Jack. It just gives you a way across.”

Jack: Bitterly. “And what if the other side doesn’t want to cross?”

Jeeny: “Then at least you built something in their direction.”

Host: The light above their table flickered once — a pulse of brightness, then calm again. The rain outside had grown heavier, the sound filling every pause between their sentences. The air smelled faintly of wet pavement and coffee grounds — that small, grounding scent of reality.

Jack: “You ever think that maybe fathers and sons are destined to misunderstand each other? Like it’s built into the wiring. We spend half our lives trying not to be them, and the other half realizing we already are.”

Jeeny: “Maybe that’s why love between them is so complicated — it’s love looking into its own future and its own past at once.”

Jack: Leaning back, staring at the ceiling. “My son’s fifteen. He barely looks at me anymore. Everything I say is wrong. I try to connect, and it’s like shouting across a canyon.”

Jeeny: “Then keep shouting. One day, he’ll hear the echo.”

Jack: Scoffing. “And if he doesn’t?”

Jeeny: Gently. “Then at least he’ll know you tried. That’s more than most sons can say.”

Host: A long silence settled — the kind that didn’t feel empty, just raw. Jack’s face was half in shadow, half in light, the same division you see on people who are trying to forgive themselves for what they’ve inherited. Jeeny reached for the small candle on the table and turned it slightly, its flame dancing between them — fragile, persistent, alive.

Jeeny: “Do you remember what Rushdie said about ‘different mistakes’? I think that’s the truest definition of progress there is. You don’t break the cycle by being perfect, Jack. You break it by choosing new ways to fail — ways that don’t echo the old pain.”

Jack: “That sounds noble until you realize pain repeats itself no matter what language you use.”

Jeeny: “Maybe. But when you turn inherited pain into conscious effort, it stops owning you. You can’t erase your father’s silence, but you can teach your son sound.”

Jack: Looking at her now, quietly. “And what if I don’t know how?”

Jeeny: “Start clumsily. Say too much. Say it wrong. That’s what love sounds like before it learns the tune.”

Host: The rain outside slowed to a mist. The window fogged from their breath, turning the outside world into a faint blur of color — red lights, soft reflections, the vague hum of a passing bus.

Jack traced a small circle on the table with his finger — a nervous, absent-minded motion. Jeeny noticed it, but didn’t interrupt. The silence this time was different. It wasn’t distance — it was contemplation.

Jack: “You ever think fathers apologize too late?”

Jeeny: “All the time. But sometimes late is still enough.”

Jack: “He never said it.”

Jeeny: “Then maybe it’s your turn.”

Jack: “To who?”

Jeeny: “To your son. And to yourself.”

Jack: His voice broke slightly. “I don’t even know what I’d say.”

Jeeny: “Say that you’re learning. That you’re trying to make new mistakes.”

Host: The candle flame flickered again — a soft, trembling heartbeat. The rain stopped entirely, leaving behind that washed-clean silence only found after confession. The city lights outside blurred into gold streaks through the window, painting faint halos across their faces.

Jack leaned back, exhaling slowly. The tension in his shoulders loosened. Jeeny smiled — not in triumph, but in recognition, as if she’d just witnessed something subtle and sacred.

Jack: “You know, maybe Rushdie’s right. The best we can do is fail better than the ones before us.”

Jeeny: “Yes. Because failure with awareness is already a form of healing.”

Jack: “So what does that make us?”

Jeeny: “Human. Beautifully, painfully human.”

Host: The clock above the counter ticked softly. The barista began wiping tables, the smell of soap mingling with the faint aroma of lingering coffee. The world outside was darker now, but inside, the small flame between them glowed steady — a quiet defiance against everything inherited and unspoken.

Jack looked at it for a long moment, then said, almost to himself:

Jack: “Maybe love isn’t about fixing what went wrong between fathers and sons. Maybe it’s about not letting silence win twice.”

Jeeny: Smiling faintly. “That’s a different mistake already.”

Host: The rain-washed streets glimmered outside. The reflections in the window softened — two silhouettes leaning closer, framed by the flicker of a small, resilient flame. And in that moment, the truth of Rushdie’s words settled between them like something half-painful, half-pure:

“We are not meant to live without mistakes — only to make new ones. For in every new mistake lies the courage to rewrite what we were taught to endure.”

Salman Rushdie
Salman Rushdie

Indian - Novelist Born: June 19, 1947

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