See, I just don't want to starve at my wedding. So, my dream

In the words of Masaba Gupta, “See, I just don't want to starve at my wedding. So, my dream wedding is one where I get to eat a meal while everyone else enjoys themselves as well,” we hear a wisdom that cloaks itself in humor, yet speaks to the heart of human longing. The wedding, often imagined as a spectacle for others, can sometimes forget the joy of the bride herself. Gupta reminds us that amidst the grandeur, the rituals, the photographs, and the endless attentions, the simplest pleasure—food—is too often denied to the very ones being celebrated.

Her words are both playful and profound. To desire to eat at one’s wedding is not greed, but the yearning for wholeness: to partake in the feast of life with one’s beloved and with one’s community. For what is the purpose of ceremony if it robs the celebrants of joy? In this, Gupta teaches that a true wedding is not about performance or perfection, but about presence—being able to savor the moment in body as well as in spirit.

History recalls the great banquets of ancient Greece and Rome, where feasts marked not only victories but unions. The bride and groom were expected to eat and drink with their guests, for the sharing of food symbolized the sharing of life itself. To starve at one’s own wedding would have been unthinkable, for to eat together was to declare community, abundance, and blessing. Gupta’s jest, then, is an echo of this ancient truth: that a feast is incomplete unless all, especially the honored, partake.

Her longing also warns against the tyranny of appearances. Too often, modern weddings become prisons of spectacle—dresses untouchable, smiles staged, food left uneaten for fear of distraction. In contrast, Gupta’s dream is one of authenticity, where the bride is not a statue to be admired but a woman alive, laughing, and savoring her meal with those she loves. This is wisdom: to remember that the beauty of a day lies not in flawless display but in lived joy.

Thus, let this teaching endure: do not let ceremony steal the substance of life. A wedding feast is not for show, but for sharing, not for performance, but for nourishment. In desiring to eat, Gupta speaks for all hearts: that our greatest celebrations should not leave us empty, but full—full of food, of laughter, and of love, tasted together at the table of life.