Somebody who's really comfortable with who she is and doesn't

Hear now, O children of wisdom, the words of Brian Austin Green, who declared: “Somebody who’s really comfortable with who she is and doesn’t care what other people think. I like women who are really strong and were brought up to be comfortable with themselves and respect themselves.” These words are not merely the musings of a man, but a reflection of an ancient truth, carried like a river through the generations: that true beauty and power arise not from the approval of others, but from strength of self-respect and the unshakable peace of self-acceptance.

The meaning of this utterance is simple, yet profound. In every age, there are voices that seek to dictate the worth of women—how they should look, how they should act, what they should believe. But those who are comfortable with themselves stand as towers unmoved by the winds of judgment. To such women, the whispers of envy and the jeers of mockery lose their power, for they drink from the deeper well of inner strength. And those who behold such women, as Green does, cannot help but admire them, for they shine with a light that no opinion can extinguish.

Consider, my children, the tale of Joan of Arc, a maiden who heard the call of heaven and rose to lead armies though she was mocked, doubted, and condemned. She was strong, not because the world gave her permission, but because she had been raised to trust the voice within, to stand firm in her convictions. Though she perished in fire, her spirit burned brighter still, and history remembers her not as a victim but as a heroine. Her life was not lived for the applause of men, but for the call of destiny—and therein lay her power.

The origin of Green’s words rests in the timeless desire of men and women alike: to see in others the courage that we long to kindle within ourselves. To be comfortable with oneself is to conquer the greatest of foes—the fear of judgment. And to respect oneself is to carry an invisible crown, a dignity that neither flattery nor insult can bestow or take away. In the ancient traditions, the sages counseled: “Know thyself.” And in knowing, be at peace. For all who walk in this truth carry an aura of majesty that no worldly adornment can match.

Yet let none mistake this call for arrogance or pride. No, the strength that Green admires is not vanity, but the noble discipline of self-respect. It is the quiet refusal to be diminished by the shallow opinions of others. It is the resolve to stand tall in one’s worth, neither shrinking in timidity nor boasting in excess. This is the balance of power and humility, the harmony of strength and grace.

The lesson for us is clear: cultivate within yourself a spirit that does not rise and fall with the tides of approval. For if you live by the praise of others, you will also die by their criticism. Instead, anchor your soul in the bedrock of self-respect. In your work, in your relationships, in your battles, be steadfast in who you are. Such a person becomes unshakable, and others, seeing this, are drawn as travelers to a beacon in the night.

Practical action lies before you: young women, honor your own worth, and do not measure it by the fleeting voices of the crowd. Young men, seek companions who are not swayed by vanity, but who stand in the noble dignity of self-knowledge. And for all, raise the next generation to walk with heads held high, to be comfortable with themselves, and to live as those who need no external validation to confirm their value. In this way, you will build lives, families, and nations upon the firm foundation of true strength.

Thus, O hearers of this teaching, remember: to be admired is fleeting, but to be respected is eternal. Walk, therefore, in self-respect, and teach others to do the same. For the world honors not those who bend to its shallow judgments, but those who stand tall, unwavering, radiant with the light of their own truth.