We should learn not to hold grudges and be positive all the time

The words of Saba Qamar, actress and voice of wisdom, rise with gentle strength: “We should learn not to hold grudges and be positive all the time because life is too short and unpredictable.” In this simple utterance lies a truth as old as the turning of the seasons: life is fleeting, and its course cannot be fully known. To waste our breath on hatred and our hearts on resentment is to squander the little time given to us. Only those who live with forgiveness and light within them can walk their days in peace.

The meaning is clear: grudges are chains we willingly fasten around our own necks. They weigh the spirit down, keeping us tethered to past wounds. To hold on to bitterness is to drink poison while expecting another to fall. By choosing instead to release anger and cultivate positivity, we free ourselves to live fully in the present. In a life that is both short and uncertain, such freedom is the greatest treasure.

The origin of this wisdom comes from the recognition of life’s fragility. Saba Qamar, who has walked through both fame and hardship, speaks as one who has seen how swiftly fortune can change. Her words remind us that no one knows the number of their days, nor the turns that fate will take. If we are to be surprised by life’s unpredictability, let it not find us trapped in hatred, but living with hearts open to joy and reconciliation.

History gives us many examples. Consider Nelson Mandela, who, after twenty-seven years in prison, emerged not with a heart of vengeance but with a spirit of forgiveness. He had every reason to cling to grudges against those who had oppressed him, yet he chose to let them go. His forgiveness did not erase the pain of the past, but it gave birth to the possibility of a brighter future for his people. Mandela understood, as Saba Qamar teaches, that life is too short and too fragile to be wasted on bitterness.

The deeper truth is this: positivity is not naïve denial of life’s hardships. It is the strength to see beyond them. It is the choice to face storms with courage, to greet challenges with resilience, and to seek joy even in small moments. Grudges close the heart; positivity opens it. Where grudges consume, positivity creates. In the brief and uncertain journey of life, creation is always greater than destruction.

The lesson for you, seeker, is this: forgive quickly, love deeply, and choose hope even when despair beckons. Do not allow past betrayals to harden your heart, nor let anger steal the beauty of your present. Life is already short, and its end can come without warning. To waste even a single day in hatred is to dishonor the gift of time. Choose instead the path of light, and you will find freedom in every breath.

Practical actions follow: when wronged, pause before letting resentment grow—choose forgiveness, not for the other alone, but for your own soul’s peace. Begin and end each day by naming something you are grateful for, to strengthen the habit of positivity. When life’s unpredictability strikes, remember that bitterness will not shield you, but positivity will help you endure. In this way, your days will be marked not by grudges, but by joy.

So remember, children of tomorrow: life is short, and its path is hidden. You cannot control the length of your days, but you can control the spirit in which you live them. Cast away grudges, embrace forgiveness, and choose positivity as your companion. For when your time ends, may it be said that you walked lightly, loved freely, and lived fully in the brief, wondrous span that was given to you.