I am not looking for a relationship right now. I have no
I am not looking for a relationship right now. I have no interest in putting my time or effort into another person, nor do I need another person to put energy into me, OK? Because that's what granola bars are for.
The words of Lilly Singh—“I am not looking for a relationship right now. I have no interest in putting my time or effort into another person, nor do I need another person to put energy into me, OK? Because that’s what granola bars are for”—carry the rare blend of humor and wisdom. Beneath the jest lies an eternal truth: that strength begins in the self, and that fulfillment need not always be sought in the presence of another.
The ancients often spoke of seasons in life—the season for war, the season for love, the season for solitude. Singh reminds us that to decline a relationship is not weakness nor bitterness, but clarity. She proclaims that her time and effort are not to be squandered when her spirit does not call for union. In this, she echoes the wisdom of the sages who counseled self-mastery before companionship.
Her mention of granola bars, though playful, is a symbol of sustenance. It tells us that simple things can provide comfort, that one may nourish the body and spirit without the weight of another’s energy pressing upon them. To the ancients, this would be akin to the hermit who found peace in bread and water, declaring: I am whole in myself, and the simplest gifts are enough for now.
There is also great heroism in this declaration. It takes courage to stand apart in a world that exalts constant companionship. Singh’s words remind us that solitude is not emptiness, but power; not exile, but choice. To turn inward is to grow strong, to tend the fire of one’s own heart before sharing its warmth with another.
So let this teaching endure: there are times to give and times to keep, times to share and times to stand alone. Seek not a relationship merely to fill a silence, nor pour out effort without purpose. For when you can laugh with yourself, be nourished by the simplest things, and draw energy from within, you walk the path of wholeness—and from wholeness, all true love may one day flow.
HGNguyen Huong Giang
It’s interesting how Lilly Singh ties her need for independence to something as simple as granola bars. I’m curious if this reflects a deeper desire for emotional self-reliance. Is it healthier to embrace solitude when we’re not ready for a relationship, or are we just avoiding vulnerability? When do we cross the line from self-care to emotional isolation, and how do we find the right balance?
DCBach Dao cong
I love the humor in this quote. Granola bars do seem to be an easy way to fill the void, but how healthy is it to rely solely on external things like food or personal space to fulfill our needs for comfort and energy? Is Lilly Singh’s stance a form of self-preservation, or is it pushing away the idea that emotional connections can also be fulfilling?
LNLoan Nguyen
Lilly Singh’s quote made me smile, but it also made me reflect on how sometimes we prioritize our own comfort over connecting with others. Is it really that bad to put energy into relationships, even when it feels like a lot of effort? Maybe there’s a middle ground where we can balance self-care and the joy of sharing our time with others. How do we know when it’s time to open up?
THVo Thi Thao Hien
I totally get where Lilly Singh is coming from. Sometimes, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by the idea of investing time and energy into relationships, especially when you feel like you need to focus on yourself. But how sustainable is that mindset in the long run? Is it possible to go through life only relying on things like granola bars and independence, or do we all need connections eventually?
BHNguyen Vu Bao Han
Lilly Singh’s quote really caught my attention. It seems like she’s expressing a need for independence, which is refreshing to hear. But is it possible to be too focused on self-sufficiency to the point where we close ourselves off from potential connections? Can there be a healthy balance between nurturing oneself and being open to relationships without feeling drained?