It is better to have a relationship with someone who cheats on

Attend, O seekers of strange wisdom, to the words of Uma Thurman, whose saying stirs both laughter and reflection: “It is better to have a relationship with someone who cheats on you than with someone who does not flush the toilet.” Though spoken with jest, it hides a lesson about the burdens of daily life and the nature of human bonds.

For in this utterance we see the contrast between the grand betrayal of infidelity and the small, unending trials of careless habit. The wound of betrayal, though deep, is a single strike, a storm that comes and passes. But the unflushed toilet, symbol of neglect and disrespect, is a daily thorn, pricking the soul again and again until patience is worn to dust. Thus, she shows us that it is often the little things, not the great tragedies, that erode the fabric of relationships.

The ancients too knew this truth: that the house is not ruined by one great earthquake alone, but by the steady rot in the beams and the drip of water upon stone. So in union between two souls, it is not only the great betrayals that matter, but the constant gestures of care—or the lack thereof. A partner who disregards the small courtesies of life may wound more deeply over time than one who falters once in passion and shame.

Therefore, let this teaching be remembered: love dwells not only in vows and in oaths, but in the humble acts of daily respect. To flush the toilet, to tend the shared space, to honor the unseen labors of one’s companion—these are the stones upon which enduring harmony is built. And so Thurman, with wit and irony, reveals a timeless truth: that what seems small is often greater than what seems great.