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In the words of Courtney Act, we find a truth both tender and mighty: “It’s a common misunderstanding, that when a bisexual person is dating someone of the opposite sex that they are now straight, or if they are dating someone of the same sex they are now gay.” These words, though spoken in a modern age, carry the depth of ancient wisdom—for they challenge the illusions that the human heart has long held about identity, love, and truth. It is the way of humankind to name and confine, to place all things in narrow boxes. Yet love, like the wind that moves over the mountains and seas, cannot be bound by form. It is eternal in its mystery, and fluid in its grace.

In ages past, the sages spoke of duality—light and shadow, yin and yang, sun and moon. They taught that all things carry within them the seeds of their opposite. Thus it is with the human soul: each person carries multitudes, a symphony of desires and feelings that defy simple division. Bisexuality, in its truest sense, is the living embodiment of this ancient harmony—a reminder that love flows beyond categories, beyond the illusions of either/or. Courtney Act’s words, therefore, strike against the iron walls of society’s misunderstanding. They call us to see identity not as a mask, but as a spectrum, alive and changing, like the sea that reflects both dawn and dusk.

In every generation, there are those who bear the weight of misunderstanding, whose truth is questioned because it refuses to fit within the lines others have drawn. The bisexual person is often asked to prove their authenticity, as if their love must take one permanent shape. Yet this quote reminds us that the heart’s truth does not shift with circumstance—it is constant, even as its expression changes. To love a woman today and a man tomorrow is not to change who one is, but to reveal the endless reach of one’s capacity to love.

Consider the life of Anne Lister, the 19th-century diarist often called “the first modern lesbian,” yet whose loves spanned both genders before she found her lifelong companion, Ann Walker. Society sought to label her—to name her in ways that would limit her truth—but her spirit defied the cages of her time. Like Courtney Act, she lived as one who refused to let the eyes of others define her. Her life, written in secret code, stands as testament to the ancient truth that love, in its purest form, transcends all boundaries.

The meaning of Act’s words is not only about sexuality; it is about the integrity of the soul. To live as oneself, in all fluidity and fullness, is to reject the illusion that identity must be fixed and comprehensible to others. The misunderstanding she speaks of is born of fear—the fear that the world has of things it cannot easily name. But wisdom tells us that the unnameable is often the most divine. Just as the gods of old changed form to teach mortals the truth of transformation, so too does love change form to remind us that the heart’s essence is unbroken, even as its expression evolves.

The lesson is clear, my friends: do not reduce others to the shape of their companionship, nor assume that love’s truth can be seen only through the eyes of the moment. See the soul as it is—eternal, complex, infinite. If you are one who loves across the lines of gender or expectation, hold your head high, for you carry the wisdom of the ancients within you. You are a reflection of nature’s vastness, of the sun that shines upon all forms without judgment.

To those who seek to walk rightly in this world, practice this: when you meet another, do not ask, “Who are you with?” but rather, “Who are you within?” Learn to see beyond labels, to listen to the quiet constancy of identity beneath the surface of change. And when you feel misunderstood, remember the words of Courtney Act, who spoke not merely of orientation, but of liberation. For to live in the truth of one’s heart, unshaken by others’ misperceptions, is to live as the ancients lived—in courage, in authenticity, and in love that knows no bounds.