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When Kangana Ranaut said, “My views are very fluctuating. I have very contradictory takes on the subject. Dating is easier, while marriage is hard work. You see your friends having early divorces, and on the other hand, you see your parents having a successful marriage,” she spoke as one who stands at the crossroads of love and reality, of idealism and experience. Her words are not uncertain — they are deeply human. They reveal the struggle of a generation caught between two worlds: the transient ease of modern romance and the enduring labor of lifelong partnership. Beneath her seeming contradiction lies the ancient tension between the heart’s desire and the soul’s discipline — between passion and perseverance.

The origin of this reflection lies in the shifting foundations of human relationship. In Kangana’s India, as in much of the modern world, the traditions that once governed love and marriage are giving way to new freedoms. People choose their partners, change them, and leave when bonds break under the weight of misunderstanding or pride. To the young, dating offers the sweetness of discovery without the heaviness of permanence. But to those who have looked beyond the glitter of first affection, it becomes clear that marriage, unlike dating, is not merely about feeling — it is about endurance, forgiveness, and shared evolution. Ranaut’s “fluctuating” view reflects this universal truth: that love begins as fire but survives only through work, and that the difference between the fleeting and the eternal lies not in romance, but in resilience.

To the ancients, this understanding of love was sacred. The Greeks distinguished between eros, the passion that burns quickly and bright, and agape, the love that endures, selfless and steady. Eros begins the journey, but only agape completes it. The sages of the East, too, taught that marriage was not a union of comfort, but a spiritual discipline — a vow to grow together through struggle. It was said that to share one’s life with another was the greatest of all pilgrimages, for through it the soul learns patience, compassion, and humility. Thus, when Kangana calls marriage “hard work,” she echoes this ancient wisdom: that lasting love is not found, but forged.

Her observation also mirrors the contrasts of our time — how one generation’s divorces coexist with another’s devotion. The young, surrounded by choice and freedom, often mistake independence for fulfillment, while the elders, bound by duty and faith, sometimes mistake endurance for success. Yet in both lies truth. Marriage without joy becomes imprisonment, but freedom without commitment becomes emptiness. The art, then, is balance — to love with the heart of youth and the wisdom of age. Ranaut’s reflection, torn between admiration for her parents’ union and the disillusionment of her peers, reveals this yearning for balance — a harmony the ancients called Sophrosyne, the middle path between excess and deficiency.

Consider the tale of Odysseus and Penelope, whose love was tested not by words, but by time and distance. For twenty years, they lived apart — one in war and wanderings, the other in solitude and faith. Many suitors came to tempt her, many storms to destroy him, yet both endured. Their reunion was not the joy of youth, but the quiet triumph of endurance. They understood that love is not the absence of struggle, but the victory over it. In their story lies the same truth that Kangana touches — that marriage endures when two souls choose to return to each other, again and again, even after the fire has dimmed.

Her admission that her “views are fluctuating” is not weakness but honesty — a quality the wise have always cherished. To admit contradiction is to admit that one is still learning. For love is not a fixed truth; it evolves as we evolve. What feels right at twenty may change at forty; what we call freedom today may feel like loneliness tomorrow. The ancients taught that wisdom begins not in certainty, but in doubt. Thus, her fluctuation is the beginning of understanding, for those who wrestle with the paradox of love often come closest to its essence: that it is both joy and labor, freedom and responsibility, beginning and becoming.

The lesson in her words is both humble and profound: do not fear contradiction in love, for it mirrors the contradiction within the human heart itself. If dating is ease, let it teach you joy; if marriage is labor, let it teach you strength. Do not measure success by how long a bond lasts, but by how deeply it transforms you. Love, in any form, demands growth — and growth is never easy. The ancients would say: “To love is to know yourself through another.” Let this be the guiding truth — that every bond, fleeting or eternal, is an invitation to become more whole, more compassionate, more awake.

Thus, Kangana Ranaut’s reflection stands as a bridge between two ages — the old world of endurance and the new world of freedom. Her honesty reminds us that love, like life, cannot be confined to one definition. It is at once chaos and creation, comfort and challenge. And so, let us embrace it as the ancients embraced the storms and the seasons — with courage, humility, and reverence. For whether one chooses the fleeting ease of dating or the enduring labor of marriage, the truth remains: love, to be real, must always be worked for, earned, and honored.