Someone who'll bring some normalcy into my life and help me stay

In the words of Shahid Kapoor, spoken with quiet yearning and the wisdom born of experience, we hear the longing of a soul weary of illusion: “Someone who'll bring some normalcy into my life and help me stay in touch with reality. That is something I'm curious about. There are so many actors who are married to people from non-film backgrounds, and their marriages are successful. I'm tired of dating actresses.” Beneath these words lies not cynicism, but the ancient desire of the heart to find balance—to return from the dazzling heights of fame to the humble, grounding soil of the real. For even those who dwell among the stars must, at times, crave the peace of the earth.

To live in the world of illusion, as the actor does, is both a gift and a burden. Every day, Shahid dons the masks of others—lovers, warriors, dreamers—and each role demands a fragment of his truth. Yet when the lights fade and the applause dies, he must ask: Who am I, beneath all these faces? His words reveal this deeper struggle—not simply the weariness of love within the same circle, but the fatigue of living in a world where reality and performance intertwine. To seek “someone from outside” is to seek an anchor—a soul untouched by the artifice, a voice that speaks plainly amid the echo of praise.

The ancients, too, knew this paradox. The great Emperor Marcus Aurelius, though surrounded by power and luxury, wrote to himself in Meditations that a man must guard his soul against the illusions of the court. “Be simple,” he wrote, “and remember that you are dust.” So too does Shahid’s longing echo this Stoic wisdom: he seeks simplicity, normalcy, the steady rhythm of ordinary life that fame so easily strips away. In the glamour of the stage, truth becomes distorted, and love—if not grounded in humility—can turn into performance.

There is also in his words a recognition of truth in difference. When he speaks of “people from non-film backgrounds,” he honors the beauty of contrast—the harmony that arises when two souls from different worlds meet and temper one another. The actor, who lives in constant exposure, finds peace in the company of one who is unimpressed by spectacle, whose affection is not for fame, but for the man beneath it. This yearning is not a rejection of his craft, but an embrace of the sacred human need for authenticity.

Consider, then, the tale of Odysseus, the wanderer-king of Ithaca. For years he sailed through storms, battled monsters, and was worshiped by goddesses, yet his heart remained fixed on home—on Penelope, who waited and wove in quiet faith. She was not divine nor adorned with glory; she was steadfast and real. When Odysseus returned at last, weary and scarred, it was her simple constancy that restored him. So too does Shahid’s wish echo the hero’s journey—not to conquer new worlds, but to return to the one place where the mask may fall and the heart may rest.

In a time when the world worships glamour and chases novelty, Shahid Kapoor reminds us that what endures is not brilliance, but balance. The artist may create beauty on screen, but he must find truth in stillness. The successful marriage he speaks of—between those from different walks of life—is not about fame or profession; it is about the meeting of souls, each giving what the other lacks. Where one is fire, the other must be earth; where one dreams, the other must remind them to wake.

The lesson is this: do not seek love in mirrors—seek it in windows that open to new air. The heart grows weary when it circles endlessly in the same light. Sometimes, we must step beyond the familiar, into the simplicity of those untouched by our world, to rediscover the joy of being human. If you find yourself lost in the noise of ambition or performance, look for the one who restores silence, who brings you back to reality.

So, dear listener, let this truth guide you: whether you are an artist, a seeker, or a dreamer, remember that the soul needs grounding as much as it needs flight. Find someone—or something—that keeps you tethered to the earth, even as your spirit reaches for the sky. For greatness without grounding turns hollow, and love without humility turns false. Like Shahid Kapoor, learn to cherish the ordinary—it is there, in the humble rhythm of life, that the extraordinary heart finally finds its home.