The more connections you and your lover make, not just between
The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.
Barbara De Angelis, teacher of love’s mysteries, once proclaimed: “The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.” In these words lies the eternal truth that love is not sustained by flesh alone, but by the weaving of many threads—intellectual, emotional, spiritual, and physical—into one enduring tapestry.
The ancients knew this sacred art. They spoke of unions blessed by the gods, where not only the bodies but also the souls of lovers were joined. Plato himself described love as the search for wholeness, where each spirit longs for its missing part. To bind only the body is to build upon sand; to bind the mind, heart, and soul is to lay a foundation upon stone, unshaken by time or trial.
De Angelis speaks of connections, the sacred bonds that deepen intimacy. The mind brings shared thought, conversation, and vision. The heart brings compassion, tenderness, and empathy. The soul brings reverence, mystery, and eternal recognition. When all these are joined, love transcends pleasure and becomes a fortress against loneliness, a sanctuary where two beings discover not only each other, but themselves.
This teaching also warns against shallowness. To rely only on the body is to taste passion but lose permanence; such bonds burn bright and quickly turn to ash. But to nurture the unseen threads—shared dreams, mutual respect, spiritual kinship—is to weave a fabric that cannot easily be torn. Each new connection is a stitch that strengthens the whole, turning moments into real moments, fleeting time into eternity.
Let the generations remember: a relationship is not merely an embrace of bodies, but a union of destinies. Seek connection in every realm—thought, feeling, and spirit—so that your love becomes more than desire, more than comfort. It becomes a sacred weaving, a cloth of many strands, strong enough to endure storms and beautiful enough to honor the divine. This is the wisdom of De Angelis: that the more threads you weave, the more eternal your love shall be.
HAHong Anh
This quote makes me think about how much more we could experience in relationships if we truly invested in every aspect of connection. But it also raises the question: is it possible to feel ‘real’ moments with someone if you haven’t fully connected emotionally, mentally, and spiritually? Can a relationship still feel fulfilling with just physical connection, or is there something missing when the deeper connections aren’t fully developed?
HSH'Lem Siu
Barbara De Angelis’ quote is a beautiful reminder that a truly fulfilling relationship isn’t just about chemistry; it’s about being connected on every level. But how do we achieve that depth? Can we actively work on connecting on these other levels, or is it something that comes with time? I wonder how many people are aware of this and consciously try to cultivate deeper connections, or do they just hope it’ll happen organically?
DTNguyen Duc Thanh
I love the idea of deepening a relationship by connecting on multiple levels. But it also makes me wonder—how do you ensure these connections don’t fade over time? In busy lives, how do couples find the time to nurture not just physical, but emotional and intellectual bonds? Is it something you have to actively work on, or can it develop naturally as the relationship matures?
GM8.9_ Gia Minh_25
This quote speaks to the heart of what makes relationships last: connection beyond the surface. It made me think, though, is it possible to build all these layers of connection over time, or do they need to develop naturally from the start? What happens if one partner is more emotionally or mentally connected than the other—can the relationship still grow, or does one-sided connection create a disconnect?
NNNguyen Ngoc
Barbara De Angelis’ quote really resonates with me because it emphasizes the depth that truly makes a relationship meaningful. It’s not just about physical connection, but about emotional, mental, and spiritual bonds. But how often do we get caught up in the physical aspect and forget to nurture these other connections? Do you think relationships can thrive if only one aspect (like emotional connection) is strong, or do all four need to be in harmony?