You learn that there's no right way to do it, no wrong way to do

The words of Stephen Curry shine with the humility of a father and the wisdom of one who has walked both triumph and trial: “You learn that there's no right way to do it, no wrong way to do it. It's just what you feel comfortable with, to trust that, and don't let anybody box you in to a certain style of parenting or make you feel a certain way about what your kids do.” In this, he proclaims a truth as old as the human family: that parenting is not a rigid formula but a living art, shaped by love, circumstance, and the uniqueness of each child.

The ancients knew that no two homes were alike, no two children the same. One seed grows quickly in the sun, another requires shade and patience. A shepherd does not guide every sheep with the same hand—some are nudged firmly, others gently, each according to their need. So it is with parenting: there is no universal “right” way, no eternal “wrong” way. There is only the bond between parent and child, tested and refined in the daily practice of love. Curry reminds us that to honor that bond is to trust oneself, and to resist being shackled by the judgments of others.

History too bears witness to this truth. Consider the example of Thomas Edison, who as a boy was dismissed by his teachers as slow and unteachable. His mother, however, refused to let the world’s judgment dictate her parenting. She withdrew him from school and taught him herself, believing in his curiosity and nurturing his mind in her own way. It was not the “right” method according to the experts of her time, but it was the method born of love and faith. From that soil grew the man whose inventions reshaped the modern world. Curry’s words reflect this same spirit: never let others box you in or dictate the worth of your child.

The wisdom here is both liberating and demanding. It frees parents from the chains of comparison, from the crushing weight of perfection. Yet it also calls them to the harder path: the path of trusting themselves, of listening to their child with fresh ears, of crafting their own way without relying on the approval of others. It is far easier to obey rigid rules than to walk by intuition; but it is in this very freedom that true parenting is born.

Curry also touches on the danger of shame. How often do parents feel judged by the choices they make, or by the behavior of their children? Yet to accept such shame is to wound both oneself and the child. A parent who trusts their own path models resilience and authenticity, teaching their children that it is not the voice of the crowd but the voice of conscience that must guide a life. This is a lesson more valuable than any chore chart or method, for it prepares children to live boldly and without fear.

The lesson for us is clear: embrace parenting as a sacred journey, not a rigid script. Learn from others, but do not become enslaved to their judgments. Observe your children closely, for they will reveal to you what they need more than any book or critic can. Above all, honor your own heart, for no one else has been entrusted with your child’s soul but you.

Practically, this means rejecting constant comparison. Do not measure your household against the polished facades of others. Instead, ask yourself: does this way of living nurture love, discipline, and growth in my child? If it does, then it is right for you. Trust your instincts, celebrate your child’s individuality, and resist the pressure to conform to a single style. Let your family’s love be the compass, not the crowd’s opinion.

Thus, Stephen Curry’s words stand as a shield for every parent: “There’s no right way to do it, no wrong way to do it.” This is not a license for neglect, but a call to authenticity. For the truest way of parenting is the one rooted in love, trust, and courage. And when parents walk this path, their children learn not only how to grow, but how to live—free, bold, and unafraid of the world’s judgment.